Yesterday my wife were blessed to watch utube video by Elyse Fitzpatrick and Jessica Thompson, authors of Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus. They both spoke at the 2012 LIBERATE conference at the Coral Ridge Presbyterian Church in Fort Lauderdale. If you’ve never heard of Elyse Fitzpatrick, you ought to get hold of one of her books. She is real, down-t0-earth and gospel centered. And she understands real grace. Jessica is her daughter who now has 3 children of her own.
In this team-talk, they share very candidly about Jessica’s upbringing and the mistakes that Elyse and her husband made, trying to be perfect parents producing the perfect kids. But their parenting was devoid of the gospel and grace. Francelle and I sat stunned as we listened, realizing that they were rehearsing our own story. In raising our 4 children we made the same mistake. Now they are teens and we are back-peddling as fast as we can.
Not that we did everything wrong. We trained them as best as we knew how. But all too often, without our realising it, we kept focusing on their outward behaviour. Yes, we knew they needed Jesus but it was all about being a good Christian, not about being dazzled by the love of Jesus and what He did for them. It was about doing the right thing, not coming to realise that they could never live up to God’s standard and then turning to Him for grace and mercy. My wife and I understand the gospel. We love Jesus. We know we are fully forgiven and everything depends on His perfect record for us. So why didn’t this translate into our parenting? This is what this talk is all about.
If you are a parent trying to raise good Christian children, this is a must see.